Came here for the 3 processing steps?

While in this step of feeling see if you can identify and name what you’re feeling. For those that have a hard time with this step for fear of uncontrolled emotion, you‘ll be able to release some of those in the next step.

Many activities called exercise or art are perfect avenues for emotional expression. Drawing, painting, coloring, letter writing, journaling, singing, dancing, martial arts, knitting, beading, running, screaming, breathwork and crying are all beneficial forms of emotional expression. Pick and try which ones will work for you for which emotion. 

*If grief is the emotion being processed due to loss of a loved one please see alternative step 3.*

After we’ve had the opportunity to feel and have an expression of emotion, now it’s time to dig deep into the experience to unearth wisdom. What have you learned and how can it be applied to future experiences? Once you have identified wisdom you can choose that instead of the old emotion. 

From an esoteric perspective, when a loved one “dies” or transitions they leave us with the need to create a new way of connecting to and communicating with them. There are innumerable ways our ancestors used to do this such as alters, shrines, cemetery visits amulets and others. You can take notes from them or create your own way. As long as you create a way it’ll help with how you feel while building your new life post the transition event.